Well the short term goal is essentially the long term goal s well.
I know Psy. All of these women KNOW Psy. He’s not going to change. He’s disappeared before. The silence that he and his closest have been engaging in just means that he’s sitting in a skype call with them, waiting for this to blow over. It’s happened before.
But never to this degree. His victims were never before able to break the conditioning he had groomed them with and group together like this, have a social media presence where they can help find OTHER victims to aid in recovery, help build the picture of who Psy really is. He won’t have a welcoming audience to come back to this time.
On the off-chance that Psy TRULY and HONESTLY repented, came out and ACTUALLY apologized, admitted to the abuse, the cheating, the pedophillia, and faced the victims of his actions to own up for EVERYTHING, then yeah, obviously THEN he’s actually changed. He’s deserving of a reprieve (but not forgiveness. Never forgiveness). But look at the insulting piece of trash he issued as his “public apology”. He didn’t even attempt to acknowledge his victims, the allegations against him, the PROOF of his abusive ways. He’s not changed and I doubt he ever will. He’s scum.
dave is a whole other ballgame. The guy has only ONE victim that he should face, ONE victim who has called him out. For dave, this should be SIMPLE. Own up. His victim has posted TONS of evidence against him….but he’s remained silent. ALL he has to do is apologize to her, admit he was wrong, show SOME kind of remorse and acknowledge her! ONE PERSON, not a horde like Psy faces. SURE he won’t be forgiven, but he’ll at least have proven himself to have a spine and be a decent human being who can admit when they’ve done wrong.
But see, dave is still a victim of Psy. The two shit talk each other behind each other’s back, as Psy uses every person he surrounds himself with until they’re dried husks. But dave continues to believe that hiding, defending Psy’s actions through inaction, stalking his victim but actively deleting ALL messages related to this is a GOOd idea. The RIGHT way to handle a situation where you’ve been proven to have sexually and emotionally manipulated a minor.
Hell, dave is still going to Galacon. Gonna go and Brony-it up in Germany, pretending that nothing is wrong and he’s never hurt anyone. He is a delusional coward.
So the end game is up to Psy and dave. This could have been over over a month ago, but those jerks chose silence, silencing tactics, threats, lying, hiding, and manipulation instead of acting like adults and owning up to what they’ve done. They STILL have the chance to come out, be truthful this time. But I don’t see Psy doing it. dave has to man up, but so far he’s chosen the coward’s path, so I doubt he’ll try as well.
I only speak for myself when I say that MY response is simply going to be a criticism of them, IF they ever tried to be honest in an apology, knowing that Psy has bullshit one before. But as much as one could HOPE that they try to be decent human beings and own up, we know Psy is NOT a decent human being. And dave is riding that flaccid tiny penis for as long as Psy finds use in dave’s art. So I doubt he’ll pull his head out of Psy’s ass to own up as well.
So we continue to raise awareness. We continue to help prevent Psy from setting up shop again. We help keep it from happening to others. We continue as we have. Psy has nothing left, and we’ll make sure it stays that way. And dave will continue to be criticized until he faces his victim.
Basically what Cailen said. If they ever actually WANT to atone, I have an entire chapter on the process of change for an abuser, granted it is the mere tip of the iceberg of what needs to be done, in that case. What won’t happen though: them not dealing with the consequences of their actions. They will never go away. We refuse to let that happen, for ourselves and for future victims.
What Bryon Beaubien did carries a minimum sentence of 10 years. For David Smith, it carries 15 years in his country. Australia is (thankfully, in this case) incredibly rigid about crimes against minors. And both the US and Australia DO have online modifiers in these laws, so you can’t bank on semantics either.
Making the abusers face the consequences of their actions is the end goal. If the law starts to spin it’s wheels, we need to do whatever we can to prevent this from ever happening again. Bryon Beaubien has proven time and time again he WILL prey on those with significantly less power/influence/experience than him. His current girlfriend was groomed up from a minor. He has several cases with hard evidence of him preying on minors before Gabriela as well.
And I, personally, am holding contributors to the abuse and enablers of the abuse accountable. Anyone who demeaned the victims outright and swept things away for their own benefit have plenty to atone for. http://amethystlashiec.tumblr.com/post/92214866506/psyguy-and-crikeydave-regarding-enablers-directly
Thank you, Cailen, for contributing so much to this by the way. Your posts are always a great read.
when my dad was in college he had a friend who told a girl he’d take her on a date unlike any other she’d ever been on and so he took her to the supermarket to watch the lobsters fighting in the lobster tank
they’re married now